A Few Book Reviews On Amazon - The Addict's Loop > Order Here
Revolutionary!
By Amazon Customer on January 13, 2017
Format: Paperback
In this text, Rene has provided those affected by addiction with a revolutionary explanation for why we fall into unhealthy behavior patterns. For those who are at their wits end, thinking "how do I always end up here??"... This is the book for you! The new awareness that I have as a result of reading this book is amazing!
Excellent book on codependency!
By Tammy O on January 8, 2017
Format: Paperback
Excellent, easy to understand book on codependency! After coming across the addict loop web page in my search for codependency information, I knew I had to read this book. Especially when I read the section of the website, "The Seven Stages Of An Intimate Codependent Relationship." It perfectly described my last relationship. The author Rene, invited me to contact him after Chapter 6 to discuss "Mapping Unconscious Codependency." My "mapping" proved to be very insightful and I am thankful to Rene for his time and for writing this book
By Jen McGillon November 14, 2016
Hands down this is the best book I've read about codependency. I started reading it and seeing my family but it didn't take me long at all to see myself. It was honest and real and made more sense to me than any other book I've read dealing with these issues.
By jaanaon June 13, 2016 A Life Changer!
The Addict’s Loop has given me a new perspective on how and why I do the things I do in my relationships. I now have a clear picture of how I became a controller, enabler and a rescuer. I have been going about my relationships exactly the same way as my parents and grandparents did, and how I am passing it on to my 2 sons. I have read more self-help books than I care to admit and now for the first time in my life at 50 and 3 marriages later, I feel that I have a chance of breaking this unconscious cycle and hopefully prevent my young sons to continue with this horrible unconscious codependent way of life. People who know me well, are noticing a change in me, but not quite knowing what it is exactly. The only thing I can do is to tell them about my codependency and give them the best gift I can think of, Rene Eram’s book, The Addict’s Loop.
By The Page, The Jewel, or The Bear on February 27, 2016
This is one of those books that helps us when we start delving into the Why behind our problems, the voice in our minds, the recurring troubles in our lives. At first glance, it seems like obvious things that we see - and let's be honest - many of us dismiss. But, the further in you delve, the more you see where your problems started, how the patterns happen, and we can see the opportunity to break the ingrained habits; the "programming." The Addict's Loop is a visual that so many people can relate to, but only if we/they/you really LOOK at it. The book itself is interactive, it gives exercises, prompts, and a lot of ideas to ponder.
Long story short, this book is a game changer. A MAJOR game changer. Go from being in the loop to breaking free - find the triggers, find the habits, find the programming - and break out of it!
By Athena Murphy on February 4, 2016
Great teaching model of codependence, and just how destructive and unhealthy it is! This book gets right at the heart of the problem, what it looks like in practice and how to solve it. It may not be an easy problem to solve, but the book helps out a lot by making the problem of codependence so clear that it's impossible not to see. This is THE BEST book yet that I've read on codependence, and this one far outshines the rest.
By thomas spiewak on October 14, 2015
"The dark shadow of underworld is almost impossible to deal with since its residence is in the unconscious. Rene's book is a serious undertaking to help us face, with courage, this daunting task". Even after 35 years of sobriety in Alcoholics Anonymous, and recent introduction to Al-Anon, I was suddenly made aware of the devastatingly unconscious world of CODEPENDENCY. The last time that I was so astonished by a psychological methodology was by Eric Berne, and Transactional Analysis. The clarity, distinctions, and patterns of the two types of codependents being CONTROLLER and DEPENDENT are illuminated into consciousness, and illicit a discomforting realization that another journey must be taken just when I thought that I had a grip on this folly we call life! At 71 years 287 days of age, the depths of my soul are challenged in every page of this book; but I found the toughest part of the reading "The Addicts Loop" to be my intense feelings of fear that I will discover dark parts of my marriage that I have conveniently avoided in previous years. Even though my arsenal of escape routes (fixes) are still available in sobriety, they are becoming less powerful in realizing that they are just escapes. Fixes temporarily take away pain that is twice as painful when it returns. It will be necessary to cover the compelling material again and again with patience, kindness, and humor. Awakening to each moments reality is not an easy task since we have all grown differently in this culture. But! what is the other choice when we face extinction? Counterconditioning and healing are clearly presented to help us on our journey home to be the authentic person that has remained hidden for a long time. Our planet is in grave trouble from living unconsciously. By choosing to become aware, we have a shot at saving the human race.
My New Found Treasure
ByCBquacken CADC IIon September 10, 2015
I've felt limited by "Conference Approved Literature" wherever I've gone in the programs of recovery. I qualify for several anonymous programs and I'm always searching for sensible literature that clarifies how my issues collide. In this age of specialization; I knew I needed a far broader view of how our personalities interweave. My CADC II training in mindfullness, and dialectic behavior, and various therapies pale in comparison to the nuts and bolts approach in the "Loop". Take a look and you will find: the examples, the case studies; this beautifully clear picture of what takes us off the path, and how we can help each other find our way back. Good reading
A must read for AUTHENTIC EMBODIED RECOVERY, May 8, 2015
By Trine
I can not convey in words how beneficial Rene's work on recovery is. It is a clear account into what drives addiction and dependency. It is not for the weak of heart. It lays out in a very clear and concise way the loop of addiction in our childhood relationship to our primary caregivers. It is incredibly honest. In its honesty it has the ability bring true insight in awareness. In its application it has the ability to bring freedom from bondage. I have not found deeper or more powerful work concerning the mechanics of addiction and codependency. The learning curve is steep, but it is one you will never ever regret. I have found more creative compassion for myself as an addict, authentic forgiveness for my parents, and an unwavering understanding for humanity as a whole. I challenge you to read, work, and integrate this material into your thoughts, words, actions. I challenge myself every day! I am amazed by Rene and what courage it must have taken to translate his insights into this book. You know you are in the presence of a master, when that master is humble and honest about his own path and through that insight is able to soften and bring grace to the difficult and tumultuous paths of others. This book is a solution... This book is a masterpiece.
I have been suffering from a strong addiction to love and sex, May 12, 2015
by Ivosan
I have been suffering from a strong addiction to love and sex. So, I have been in a number of destructive co-dependent relationships, and in the last ten years or so, I developed a very strong compulsion to watch pornography. The last five, I have struggled with recovery programs in therapy and a 12 steps program, and I've read numerous books on self-help and recovery. Last time I checked, my Kindle library contained 135 titles on those areas, and although I have gained insight and good advice from many of them, I have never experienced the changes and the progress I have from this book. The author boldly claims in the introduction that it will change the way you will see the world and your relationships, and I might have read something just like that a number of times before, but, this time, it was completely accurate. What is more important to me, I would add that this book has changed the way I see and feel my addiction, and the addicts' I work with daily in my 12-step group.
The author has made the effort to lay out the concepts clearly, stripped off technical jargon and references to theory. Moreover, the questionaries' and exercises come for the most part at the right junctures, where self-analysis seems more relevant. I bought the Kindle edition, and regret not getting the paperback, as it would have been much easier to work on the practical sections. It has helped me to arrest dependent behavior, which for me has also involved a reconsideration and "cleaning" of my relationships with friends and family of dependent behavior. On my first reading realizing of these and other issues was hard; I experienced a lot of internal turmoil, but little by little, I am finding a release and a good deal of hope.
Feeling hopeless or frustrated in relationships?, October 20, 2014
By Ish Kabb.
If you are in any kind of recovery process or in a relationship of any kind, troubled or not; this book may provide insights you never thought of. Alcoholism, substance and process addictions, are a leading health issue for most of the world. This book pulls back the covers on these topics to reveal an unconscious driving force fueling these pernicious maladies. It reveals mental and emotional patterns, processes, and characteristics programed in early childhood and young adulthood, long before any symptoms of substance abuse arise. Making known these patterns through self-awareness and identification and some personal family history detective work can enable me to take proactive steps in here and now relationship communications and crises. This book is about identifying both controlling patterns and dependent tendencies at unhealthy levels and taking the necessary actions through support and connection with one's innermost strengths. It is not about a quick fix to these problems but a plan of action that through group and personal effort one can attain and maintain a life of relationships in health, love, and honesty. This book is about self-care at the deepest level; as Rene puts it, "my core integrity and root honesty". You'll never look at codependency, addiction, or relationships the same again.
Profoundly Insightful for All Relationships., June 14, 2014
By Michael McGuire
After reading the book and using the workbook I discovered patterns in my relationships that I never new existed. I have noticed behaviors that have kept repeating themselves, similar to the addicts loop that is described in the book. I am not addicted to any substances but realized that there was a similar arc of behavior in my relationships. The workbook was particularly helpful to identify the controller - dependent roles in my family history and how those feeling tones have rippled through my life . It made me realize how much of what is going on in my relationships have such a large unconscious component. The concepts in the book and workbook exercises helped me to identify many of those components, so I am much more conscious of the dynamics of my interactions. You don't have to be an addict to benefit from this book. It relates to the spiritual structure all relationships.
AN ABSOLUTE MUST READ., November 12, 2014
by Daniel Pebbles
This is an absolute must read for anyone struggling with codependent issues in their relationships. It cuts to the very core of the problem, and then shows you ways to counter-condition what you have been taught. The great news is that we have learned, or have been conditioned, in childhood to cope in our relationships in unhealthy ways. With this invaluable book, we can unlearn all that and have a chance at real recovery.
Revolutionary!
By Amazon Customer on January 13, 2017
Format: Paperback
In this text, Rene has provided those affected by addiction with a revolutionary explanation for why we fall into unhealthy behavior patterns. For those who are at their wits end, thinking "how do I always end up here??"... This is the book for you! The new awareness that I have as a result of reading this book is amazing!
Excellent book on codependency!
By Tammy O on January 8, 2017
Format: Paperback
Excellent, easy to understand book on codependency! After coming across the addict loop web page in my search for codependency information, I knew I had to read this book. Especially when I read the section of the website, "The Seven Stages Of An Intimate Codependent Relationship." It perfectly described my last relationship. The author Rene, invited me to contact him after Chapter 6 to discuss "Mapping Unconscious Codependency." My "mapping" proved to be very insightful and I am thankful to Rene for his time and for writing this book
By Jen McGillon November 14, 2016
Hands down this is the best book I've read about codependency. I started reading it and seeing my family but it didn't take me long at all to see myself. It was honest and real and made more sense to me than any other book I've read dealing with these issues.
By jaanaon June 13, 2016 A Life Changer!
The Addict’s Loop has given me a new perspective on how and why I do the things I do in my relationships. I now have a clear picture of how I became a controller, enabler and a rescuer. I have been going about my relationships exactly the same way as my parents and grandparents did, and how I am passing it on to my 2 sons. I have read more self-help books than I care to admit and now for the first time in my life at 50 and 3 marriages later, I feel that I have a chance of breaking this unconscious cycle and hopefully prevent my young sons to continue with this horrible unconscious codependent way of life. People who know me well, are noticing a change in me, but not quite knowing what it is exactly. The only thing I can do is to tell them about my codependency and give them the best gift I can think of, Rene Eram’s book, The Addict’s Loop.
By The Page, The Jewel, or The Bear on February 27, 2016
This is one of those books that helps us when we start delving into the Why behind our problems, the voice in our minds, the recurring troubles in our lives. At first glance, it seems like obvious things that we see - and let's be honest - many of us dismiss. But, the further in you delve, the more you see where your problems started, how the patterns happen, and we can see the opportunity to break the ingrained habits; the "programming." The Addict's Loop is a visual that so many people can relate to, but only if we/they/you really LOOK at it. The book itself is interactive, it gives exercises, prompts, and a lot of ideas to ponder.
Long story short, this book is a game changer. A MAJOR game changer. Go from being in the loop to breaking free - find the triggers, find the habits, find the programming - and break out of it!
By Athena Murphy on February 4, 2016
Great teaching model of codependence, and just how destructive and unhealthy it is! This book gets right at the heart of the problem, what it looks like in practice and how to solve it. It may not be an easy problem to solve, but the book helps out a lot by making the problem of codependence so clear that it's impossible not to see. This is THE BEST book yet that I've read on codependence, and this one far outshines the rest.
By thomas spiewak on October 14, 2015
"The dark shadow of underworld is almost impossible to deal with since its residence is in the unconscious. Rene's book is a serious undertaking to help us face, with courage, this daunting task". Even after 35 years of sobriety in Alcoholics Anonymous, and recent introduction to Al-Anon, I was suddenly made aware of the devastatingly unconscious world of CODEPENDENCY. The last time that I was so astonished by a psychological methodology was by Eric Berne, and Transactional Analysis. The clarity, distinctions, and patterns of the two types of codependents being CONTROLLER and DEPENDENT are illuminated into consciousness, and illicit a discomforting realization that another journey must be taken just when I thought that I had a grip on this folly we call life! At 71 years 287 days of age, the depths of my soul are challenged in every page of this book; but I found the toughest part of the reading "The Addicts Loop" to be my intense feelings of fear that I will discover dark parts of my marriage that I have conveniently avoided in previous years. Even though my arsenal of escape routes (fixes) are still available in sobriety, they are becoming less powerful in realizing that they are just escapes. Fixes temporarily take away pain that is twice as painful when it returns. It will be necessary to cover the compelling material again and again with patience, kindness, and humor. Awakening to each moments reality is not an easy task since we have all grown differently in this culture. But! what is the other choice when we face extinction? Counterconditioning and healing are clearly presented to help us on our journey home to be the authentic person that has remained hidden for a long time. Our planet is in grave trouble from living unconsciously. By choosing to become aware, we have a shot at saving the human race.
My New Found Treasure
ByCBquacken CADC IIon September 10, 2015
I've felt limited by "Conference Approved Literature" wherever I've gone in the programs of recovery. I qualify for several anonymous programs and I'm always searching for sensible literature that clarifies how my issues collide. In this age of specialization; I knew I needed a far broader view of how our personalities interweave. My CADC II training in mindfullness, and dialectic behavior, and various therapies pale in comparison to the nuts and bolts approach in the "Loop". Take a look and you will find: the examples, the case studies; this beautifully clear picture of what takes us off the path, and how we can help each other find our way back. Good reading
A must read for AUTHENTIC EMBODIED RECOVERY, May 8, 2015
By Trine
I can not convey in words how beneficial Rene's work on recovery is. It is a clear account into what drives addiction and dependency. It is not for the weak of heart. It lays out in a very clear and concise way the loop of addiction in our childhood relationship to our primary caregivers. It is incredibly honest. In its honesty it has the ability bring true insight in awareness. In its application it has the ability to bring freedom from bondage. I have not found deeper or more powerful work concerning the mechanics of addiction and codependency. The learning curve is steep, but it is one you will never ever regret. I have found more creative compassion for myself as an addict, authentic forgiveness for my parents, and an unwavering understanding for humanity as a whole. I challenge you to read, work, and integrate this material into your thoughts, words, actions. I challenge myself every day! I am amazed by Rene and what courage it must have taken to translate his insights into this book. You know you are in the presence of a master, when that master is humble and honest about his own path and through that insight is able to soften and bring grace to the difficult and tumultuous paths of others. This book is a solution... This book is a masterpiece.
I have been suffering from a strong addiction to love and sex, May 12, 2015
by Ivosan
I have been suffering from a strong addiction to love and sex. So, I have been in a number of destructive co-dependent relationships, and in the last ten years or so, I developed a very strong compulsion to watch pornography. The last five, I have struggled with recovery programs in therapy and a 12 steps program, and I've read numerous books on self-help and recovery. Last time I checked, my Kindle library contained 135 titles on those areas, and although I have gained insight and good advice from many of them, I have never experienced the changes and the progress I have from this book. The author boldly claims in the introduction that it will change the way you will see the world and your relationships, and I might have read something just like that a number of times before, but, this time, it was completely accurate. What is more important to me, I would add that this book has changed the way I see and feel my addiction, and the addicts' I work with daily in my 12-step group.
The author has made the effort to lay out the concepts clearly, stripped off technical jargon and references to theory. Moreover, the questionaries' and exercises come for the most part at the right junctures, where self-analysis seems more relevant. I bought the Kindle edition, and regret not getting the paperback, as it would have been much easier to work on the practical sections. It has helped me to arrest dependent behavior, which for me has also involved a reconsideration and "cleaning" of my relationships with friends and family of dependent behavior. On my first reading realizing of these and other issues was hard; I experienced a lot of internal turmoil, but little by little, I am finding a release and a good deal of hope.
Feeling hopeless or frustrated in relationships?, October 20, 2014
By Ish Kabb.
If you are in any kind of recovery process or in a relationship of any kind, troubled or not; this book may provide insights you never thought of. Alcoholism, substance and process addictions, are a leading health issue for most of the world. This book pulls back the covers on these topics to reveal an unconscious driving force fueling these pernicious maladies. It reveals mental and emotional patterns, processes, and characteristics programed in early childhood and young adulthood, long before any symptoms of substance abuse arise. Making known these patterns through self-awareness and identification and some personal family history detective work can enable me to take proactive steps in here and now relationship communications and crises. This book is about identifying both controlling patterns and dependent tendencies at unhealthy levels and taking the necessary actions through support and connection with one's innermost strengths. It is not about a quick fix to these problems but a plan of action that through group and personal effort one can attain and maintain a life of relationships in health, love, and honesty. This book is about self-care at the deepest level; as Rene puts it, "my core integrity and root honesty". You'll never look at codependency, addiction, or relationships the same again.
Profoundly Insightful for All Relationships., June 14, 2014
By Michael McGuire
After reading the book and using the workbook I discovered patterns in my relationships that I never new existed. I have noticed behaviors that have kept repeating themselves, similar to the addicts loop that is described in the book. I am not addicted to any substances but realized that there was a similar arc of behavior in my relationships. The workbook was particularly helpful to identify the controller - dependent roles in my family history and how those feeling tones have rippled through my life . It made me realize how much of what is going on in my relationships have such a large unconscious component. The concepts in the book and workbook exercises helped me to identify many of those components, so I am much more conscious of the dynamics of my interactions. You don't have to be an addict to benefit from this book. It relates to the spiritual structure all relationships.
AN ABSOLUTE MUST READ., November 12, 2014
by Daniel Pebbles
This is an absolute must read for anyone struggling with codependent issues in their relationships. It cuts to the very core of the problem, and then shows you ways to counter-condition what you have been taught. The great news is that we have learned, or have been conditioned, in childhood to cope in our relationships in unhealthy ways. With this invaluable book, we can unlearn all that and have a chance at real recovery.
